Here We Go Again
I don't know what to do about Kyra. She's back in one of her funky moods and it's going to piss me off. She has sat around and hasn't spoken a word to anyone without HAVING to in days. She goes through this every so often and it drives me nuts. I don't get it. I really don't. I mean, I DO get it when things are tense around here or I'm in a shitty mood and getting on to the kids all the time but I've been in a great mood and she's been completely off my shit list for months. Hell, everyone has been for the most part... except for Austin.
She sat at the table on Thanksgiving and didn't say a SINGLE word, and I'm not exaggerating one bit. She has done it all weekend. She's done it to her mom for years, but some of that I understand. I don't understand why she doesn't try to move past it but I get the underlying issues, but COME ON. She has chosen not to have a relationship with her mom. AT. ALL. Not one word. Her mother is about to have a baby and she's going to miss out on it and not know her little sister.
I don't discipline her at all anymore because it just makes no sense to me. I let Craig do it all. He's so fucking rational and calm! I used to wish I could be that way but he holds it in and it bothers him for a long time whereas I get pissed off and my anger is WHITE hot. It spews out of me like lava and then its gone and I'm over it. It doesn't linger. So while mine may LOOK like the worse choice, in the long run I think it's healthier.
Anyway, we're headed ro Ryan's game in Keller today. I hope she plays well. She's finally feeling better, as am I. Hopefully, this time it holds.
Comments
I've been thinking about this the past couple of days. Maybe Kyra needs an extracurricular activity. Your other 2 kids are so accomplished that I wonder if she feels a bit of jealously or maybe "defeat" that she isn't as good at something as they are. Sports might not be her thing, but maybe there is something that would interest her that would get her occupied.
Posted by: daisy | November 27, 2006 7:43 AM
Kyra is in choir and is active in a few clubs at school. She has a very pretty singing voice and she really enjoys it. But you hit the nail on the head... she expects to be as good at what she does as the other two are at what they do. Kyra has spectacular grades in school and I'm always telling her that THAT is what she's good at.
Austin and Ryan were/are good in school. Their grades are fine and though Austin is EXTREMELY intelligent he didn't care about making really good grades... he only cared about graduating. Ryan makes B's. Kyra makes straight A's. That's what she does best and that's going to get her somewhere.
Posted by: Kristi | November 27, 2006 9:02 AM
Maybe with her singing you could get her involved in drama (outside of school). Here we have a group that puts on a play/musical every year and it is a huge event. It is all local/amateurs and there are always lots of parts for the younger set.
Posted by: daisy | November 27, 2006 1:00 PM