KG's Hideaway

I'm really worried about my sister. I called her last night and she was crying... so much that she could barely talk. You know how psychologist talk about all of those BIG things that be the impetous for trouble ...? You know, divorce, loss of job, moving, family upheaval, death of family and or friends? Well, she's had all of those in the last year. Plus, no one wants to hire her because she's almost 7 months pregnant, so she just can't get a break.

Her almost ex-husband is trying to screw her over. He has bad credit and won't pay any of his bills that he ran up on her credit cards (that she had before they got married) when he needed credit to get his business going. His family has BIG money but they don't want to give him any of it right now because he'd they're worried that she'd somehow get some of it. He's being a total prick and it pisses me off.

Anyway, I told her that I'd picked up a few things for the baby on Saturday and she sounded kind of excited about that. I asked her where she'd gotten the stuff she has already and after a slight hesitation she said, "... the trash." I was floored. Now I know that people throw perfectly good stuff away, but this isn't right! I didn't ask what she does or doesn't have because she's already so freaked out about having her first baby (even though she wants one SO bad!) AND doing at 36 and doing it alone, plus there's the problem of her not having a job so I don't want her freaking out about things she doesn't have.

I don't want her to feel like I'm treating her as a charity case. Since she and I are still walking on VERY thin eggshells I don't want to offend her in any way. My mother has always told me that one of my sister's biggest pet peeves with me is that I would still be "nice" to her even when she was pissed off at me. (yes, I know that's strange) She said she thought she was going to have to use cloth diapers to save money so I offered to help out and buy her disposable ones and she accepted. She can still use the cloth diapers when she's at home or whatever. I also bought her on of those harness things that you use to strap the baby to you so you can do other things, too. I've bought a few little clothing items that I couldn't pass up but nothing extravagant.

I want to do so much more, but I don't want to do TOO much because I'm worried it might push too many buttons so I was thinking that maybe if I just looked for some good used stuff for her it wouldn't seem so obvious. She needs crib pads, sheets all that stuff and that's not cheep so I think I'll start there. The clothes, well, I'll just buy what ever I find. I'm so confused. Any advice would be appreciated.