Austin and Amanda
10-03-05 1:32am
Craig and I just finished sitting and talking with Austin and Amanda and I can't help but feel very proud at how "adult" they're being.
They broke up last week because Austin came clean about an incident he was involved in at a party two weeks ago where he sort of got involved with two girls that were making out. One of them saw he had a tongue ring and grabbed his shirt and kissed him. He didn't stop her... in fact, he licked the thigh of the other girl. He might have been ok except that someone there was videotaping it and the room was FULL of guys watching. So he told her about it Wednesday and they broke up. They both came to town this weekend but Amanda did her own thing and so did Austin, but they both wanted to come and talk to us. I can't even begin to tell you how, as a parent, it feels when your kid voluntarily comes to you about ANYthing.
So we talked it out and Amanda is hurt. I explained that to me it isn't a big deal (afterall, I'm the wife that buys Playboy for my husband) But it doesn't matter who agrees with her and who doesn't, if Austin's actions hurt her he has to take ownership of those actions (he does) and decide if their relationship is worth giving up things like that in order to avoid hurting her. He said he'd do anything to make things work with her. I was proud of him in that moment because he really took responsibility for what he did and didn't make excuses for one second of it.
We all talked for about 3 hours and they decided to go get something to eat. Austin got drunk last night at a friend's house (he called to tell me that he was going to drink but he'd given his keys to Eric's girlfriend who doesn't drink... and assured me that if he wanted to come home he'd call and not attempt to drive) so he had puked much of the night. He was hungry and decided to attempt eating, then they were going to drive back to Stephenville tonight. I told them that's silly to try so they decided to go eat, then come back here and do their math homework and drive back before class in the morning.
Amanda thought I'd be mad at her for breaking up with Austin, and that I'd make her give back the cell phone we got her (we put a phone for her on our account. It's cheaper that way since they spent so much time on the phone and we could then give them free cell to cell) but I told her that no matter what type of relationship they had she would always be considered one of "mine" and always welcome in our home. The phone wasn't contingent on them dating, so I won't change that. I mean, I guess at some point it WOULD change, but it wouldn't be just because they broke up.
So I sit here, giddy as a school girl because my son is really growin up. A great way to end the weekend! Night night! kdgr