6-3-05 11:49pm
Ryan's team lost tonight. They played like shit as a team, but she had a pretty good game in spite of her migraine. Everytime the coach subbed her out she sat with a bag of ice on her head. Tomorrow they will need to buck up and play hard, because it's a double elimination tournament.
Tonight was a milestone for Austin. I'm still not sure I did the right thing... Austin came in and told me that he was going to stay at Amanda's house tonight because her mother is "out" (I'm not even going to address what this woman is doing) and Amanda and Whitney (her best friend) found a bottle of Tequila under the sink and had decided to make jello shots. He told me he wasn't going to drink but he wanted to be there to make sure that they didn't do something stupid... like get into a car. He offered to call me throughout the night, but I told him it wasn't necessary. All I wanted him to do was give me his word and stick to it. I walked out into the livingroom where Amanda and Whitney were sitting. They looked terrified once they knew I knew what they had planned, but I told them that if Amanda's mom came home and started a fight with her (that's been happening alot lately) they had to promise me they wouldn't get into a car, even though Austin (supposedly) won't be drinking. I told them to call me or Craig and we would come get them... we wouldn't say a word to them about drinking, but just let them come in and sleep it off. They all agreed to that. I'm not sure if I did the right thing... maybe I should have discouraged the drinking, but I don't think it would have helped the situation at that point. I'm hoping that the way I handled it tonight fostered some trust and they know that I'm not going to jump all over them. Now, in a couple of days I'll probably catch Amanda when she's over here and talk to her about things... I don't know. Any ideas? kdgr
Comments
This is the very stuff I see my kids facing sooner than later. It is so hard to decide who/what/where to do. Sometimes it isn't until after the decision was
I think this showed a lot of respect on your part for letting him and on his part for telling you. I would rather be the parent who knew and talked about it before instead of the one who did not know and found out later afterwards.
There is nothing wrong with an open line of communication. What if you said no? This probably would have happened anyways.
How did it turn out?
Posted by: aithne | June 4, 2005 9:09 AM
I'm the exact way. They are going to do it but need to things responsibly. That's what I've always encouraged my daughter to do and I think she's been pretty good. We always stressed the DD and she says she sticks to that (I sure hope so). Her sorority insists on it even so that has enforced it. Of course now she is 21 so she is "legal" to drink, but I still stress responsibility. I think you have to be open and honest with them so that if they do get in a situation they'll call you...that's the most important. And if you can keep the communcation open between you then I think the kiddos turn out pretty good.
Posted by: daisy | June 5, 2005 11:10 AM